youre free to do your calcs ill just sum my thought up:
A destro specc all the way down gives you
[5% crit - devastation]
50% crit bonus - ruin
10% more dam on SP - emberstorm
3% crit - backlash
A little threat you gain from Soul leech
[10% more crit chance on SP - improved SP]
If you use your common-all-day destro build to tank him and have improved searing pain in that - ok thats your thing
Compare that to something like:
http://www.wowhead.com/?talent=AZfx0zIiz0tstxx0tbb
30 more dam - fel armor
5% more dam + 35 resis - master dem
5% more dam - Soul link
110? spelldamage - DK
5% crit - DT
+
[5% crit - devastation]
[10% SP crit - improved SP]
35 more resis is one more good item you can use for damage.
Now, substracting what both equal out:
2% crit, ~140spelldam and 1 item VS
50% crit bonus and SLeech threat
Some theorycraft numbers:
In 100 SP both builds would loose like 8-9% to misses.
Assuming a 20% crit chance with all your FR gear on as destro, that would give Demo 22%.
+10% SP crit rating oc
The 1 item, i just take as 30 spelldam - thats 170 for demo then.
If your average raidbuffed SP(CoE, Misery and Mage scorch) now hits for 700, demo will hit for 770.
(30xcrits for 1400 + 70x700 - 8x700) *2 = 170.800
(32xcrits for 1155 + 68x770 - 8x770) *2 = 166.320
Your right, you will probably end up higher in numbers as destro, but prolly not by as much as you think.
But to bring this thing back on topic:
You can do it with both builds, if youre rather safe, take a SL build, if you dont fancy 100g respecc costs for a night or two, keep your destro build.